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Friday, September 30, 2011

Finding Love Even When You're Stricken With an STD


A sexually transmitted disease or STD can break your life in a single snap. Going on knowing that you're stricken with an STD is really difficult especially when the people around you know about it. Aside from the humiliation and public dismay, you yourself will face tremendous self esteem issues that will wreak you to the bone. It is something you'd have to deal with for a long time until you can finally accept who you are and what you have become.

Having an STD is not the end of the world. There are other people who have fallen victims to this ailment, you are not alone and yes, there is hope in finding love even when you have an STD. The answer to this woe is true love found online. Why online? Because finding love through the usual means of finding dates is impossible since most people have frowned upon STD singles.

Honesty and trust has always been the foundation of a strong and long lasting relationship and you can find this through online dating websites geared towards singles with sexually transmitted diseases. By being upfront and honest with your ailment from the moment you join, you can expect other single members like you to respond positively with respect to your honesty.

Don't worry. Joining this kind of online communities doesn't expose you to outside threats and scrutiny because your identity is concealed with the sites' security measures to protect their members. All the things and information you share with the other members is completely up to you. You can choose to reveal your personal information and identity to the single members who you have been in contact with for quite some time.

Accepting what you are capable and not capable of doing is the beginning point of recovery to oneself. Any self consciousness and self esteem issues will begin to fade once you are around people who can fully and truly understand your situation. Aside from communicating with your possible matches, you can also join some discussions done in the forums of the website which totally creates an at-home feeling of acceptance from other members.

You can share what your experiences are like living with the STD you have been stricken with. This sharing of opinion between singles allow the community and each member to enrich their knowledge on how to deal and combat with the ailment. Aside from finding love, think about these communities as your outlet to be your self and as a sharing group you can interact with.

You can learn more about other members who are into Herpes dating and if you yourself have this kind of ailment, finding a date and a possible lifetime mate is no longer an impossible feat for you. Believe it or not, there are a lot of people who are stricken with STD who are living a wonderful life as of this moment because they have found their true soul mate and love.

Perhaps it's about time that you find your very own life partner who can truly understand and know what you feel. An HIV dating service may help you find a suitable match online. Not only will you fulfill your lifelong dream of being with someone who can accept you for who you are but you will also find a mate who you can play with for life.




As you can see STD is not the end of life. It's only the beginning of a different life ahead of you, a life that is filled with wonders and mystery. With all these in hand, you can also help other STD singles who are suffering with self acceptance issues. Giving them a lending hand is one way you can help them survive and battle with their ailments.




Sex After STDs That Don't Go Away


Some STDs are worse than others. HIV is arguably the worst one of all to get. Others like gonorrhea and chlamydia are treatable and more or less go away. Then there's HPV (genital warts) and herpes types 1 and 2. Type one typically considered oral and type 2 being genital although people can have either in either place.

Many people who are out there playing the field or even just playing one on one need to be more informed if they want to remain free and minimize their risk of contracting an STD. Know the ins and outs of all these nasty things out there.

It's almost a cliche of a line that people in the dating scene use - I'm STD free and tested regularly. How often have you heard that one and wonder just how honest that really is. It's obvious based on the amount of people out there infected with something that we don't really know what that means. Did this person get tested for just HIV? Or did they also get tested for hepatitis C, HSV 1 and 2 (blood test), HPV, gonorrhea, chlam. etc...

For example, testing for herpes isn't usually done unless it is requested by you. Although men can be carriers of HPV, there currently isn't a test for men with HPV.

Let's say that you're reading this and thinking, yeah, this really doesn't help me now as I'm already infected with something that doesn't go away. Maybe you've just found out or maybe you've been living with it for a while. Some people take it hard and some don't let it define themselves.  The reality is, there's a whole ton of people out here playing around who have herpes and don't even know it because they never had a noticeable outbreak.  The official statistics believe the ratio is 1 out of 4 to 1 out of 5 adults have it.  Many believe the number is much higher simply because of lack of testing and lack of symptoms for many carriers.

When you decide that you would like to still have a healthy physical relationship that includes sex with another person, where can you go? Local support groups for STDs can be found through a search on the internet.

A great source of information on herpes can be found at http://www.herpes-coldsores.com

Where can you go - local support groups can be found through a search on the internet. There's even dating sites out there like  that can help people find others in similar situations that can offer hope and support and of course, romance and physical intimacy.

So living with an STD that doesn't go away doesn't have to become a life of celibacy. Get the facts and play safe.




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Safer Sex Menu


Safer sex can be fun and you won't have to worry as much. The best advice is to use safer sex supplies until you and your lover are in a monogamous relationship.

- Saucy phone-sex or sex talk

- A luscious body massage

- Naughty videos & audios

- Scrumptious body licking

- A spicy striptease

- Savory kissing

- Mouth watering mutual masturbation

- Tasty cleavage fornication

- Juicy oral delights with a condom or rubber dam

- Steamy sex with vibrators and other adult toys (Not shared)

- Delicious penetration with an FDA approved condom

- Sugary caresses

- Syrupy love bites served gently

- Sweet body pressing

- Warm blows of breath

- Creamy cuddles

Condom Talk

If your lover gives you a hard time about wearing a condom, here are some good responses and excellent reasons why you need to use one.

Him: I don't think condoms are romantic.

Her: Just let me show you how romantic condoms can be.

Him: You don't trust me, do you?

Her: It's not a matter of trust; it's a matter of health.

Him: I don't like to use condoms.

Her: I don't have sex without them.

Him: I haven't had sex with anyone in years so I know I'm clean.

Her: Thanks for being so honest, but let's use one anyway.

Him: I can't feel anything when I wear a condom.

Her: Let me provide you with some extra stimulation.

Him: I know I'll lose my erection by the time I get it on.

Her: Here, let me put it on for you with my mouth.

Him: I'm only going to use a condom this once.

Her: Once is all it takes.

Him: Sorry, I don't have one.

Her: That's ok. I do.

Him: How come you have condoms on you? Did you plan to have sex with me?

Her: I made sure I had some because I really care about you.

Him: Forget it. I'm not going to use a condom.

Her: Fine. Then let's not have sex until we can work out our differences.

Dr. Ava Cadell's Sexual Consent Form

Who needs it and why use it?

Superstar athletes, actors, rock stars, politicians, even entrepreneurs have groupies that will do just about anything to have sex with them, but can they be trusted? Will they lie about the act being consensual? Could they threaten to sue or worse still, make an accusation about sexual assault? You bet they can! So how can these people who are regularly out of town and away from home, which can lead to loneliness and result in temptation, protect themselves? Condoms can protect from the Std's and unwanted pregnancy. Another form of protection is to have a signed sexual consent form before having any sex as I described on TV's Celebrity Justice, CNN , ABC , Fox News and Good Morning America

If you think that a sexual consent form is only for the rich and famous, think again. Even if you have no assets, you need to protect yourself from false accusations because you can lose everything including your personal property, freedom and reputation. There are many other benefits to signing a sexual consent form, including the fact that you literally open up a form of intimate communication prior to rushing into sex. And, ladies the sexual consent form can protect you from being taken advantage of sexually because there is an -out clause- that stipulates that if you say the words -Code Red,- your partner must stop immediately. I chose this phrase because the words -No- and -Stop- have been used all too frivolously in our society and unfortunately, they are not always taken seriously. By using the sexual consent form with an FDA approved condom, you could protect yourself legally and sexually.

Benefits of a Sexual Consent Form

- I created it so that there will be no confusion or miscommunication as far as sexual consent is concerned.

- It protects men from conniving women who may bring false charges of sexual misconduct for financial gain.

- Even men who have no assets need to protect themselves from false accusations because they can lose everything that is dearest to them. Property, freedom and their reputation.

- This form is actually a way for the man to ask for permission to have sex with the woman.

- Women should NOT sign it if they do not trust the man are not ready for intimacy.

- It can be a form of foreplay before you get to the bedroom since you get to talk about sex before rushing into it. Great communication.

- The woman can select which sexual activities she wants to indulge in.

- -No- & -Stop- has been used frivolously, playfully and teasingly & is not taken seriously anymore. The phrase Code Red will not be mistaken for anything other than -high alert- hands off, you've gone too far. A similar 'Out Clause' is used in consensual bondage.

- Code Red is an alert that means stop because I am having physical or emotional problems. He must stop instantly.

- Any contract is contestable, even a prenuptial or Will. But if I were accused, I would rather go to court with it than without it. It would be admissible and relevant as evidence of consent if signed by the alleged victim.

- It's a great way to keep tabs on how many sex partners you've had.

- This is not a rape tool. On the contrary, I believe that it will prevent rape. A rapist is less likely to use a sexual consent form.

- As for the argument that a woman can be forced into signing it, I contend that a handwriting expert could probably identify a forced signature.

- There is never a guarantee that someone will NOT take advantage of you sexually, emotionally or physically. The best line of defence is always to be cautious and listen to your gut instincts. Never do anything that you do not want to do!

Is Oral Sex really Sex?

It is ridiculous to view oral sex as -not sex.- It's just as intimate as sexual intercourse, so why would you engage in oral sex with someone you wouldn't want to have intercourse with? Well, I'll tell you why. It all started in 1998 when then President Bill Clinton stated publicly, -I did not have sexual relations with that woman- even though he had repeatedly received oral sex from his intern, Monica Lewinsky. Now there is the growing problem of defining what sex really is. In the minds of many teenagers, oral sex isn't really sex. They seem to think they can stay virgins by engaging in oral sex because their hymen isn't broken. That's like saying, you can have anal sex and remain a virgin. Technically, it's true, but theoretically and emotionally it's not. Some guys also think they aren't cheating when they have oral sex with another woman because they can't get her pregnant. Giving and receiving oral sex is one of the most intimate and erotic acts that can be exchanged within a loving adult relationship and yes, it is sex!

Oral sex isn't a safe sex activity

Although oral sex is safer than vaginal and anal sex, it is still possible to contract Std's. The bottom line is that oral sex should be avoided if the giver has any sores or bleeding gums in the mouth. Even if he or she has just brushed or flossed their teeth, it can cause microscopic scratches in the lining of the mouth that makes one vulnerable to infection. Because of this, doctors advise the use of condoms for fellatio (flavored condoms are best) and the use of female condoms, dental dams or kitchen plastic wrap) for cunnilingus.

Better to be safe than sorry

Many people are unclear on the risks associated with oral sex. Unprotected oral sex carries a lesser risk for the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (Std's) than unprotected intercourse or anal penetration, but there's still a risk for both the giver and the receiver of oral sex. First let's look at how to avoid these contagious Std's by practicing safer sex.

Safer Sex Supplies

If you love yourself, you must protect yourself. Ladies, there's no reason why you can't enjoy the eroticism of oral sex and practice safer sex at the same time. Even if you're in a monogamous relationship, you'll want to have some of the safer sex supplies around to help you add more pleasure, persity and spontaneity to your oral sex adventures.

Female Condoms

Reality Condoms are the most well known, but they recently changed their name to FC Female Condoms. Femidom is another brand of female condoms. Most female condoms work the same way. They're made of polyurethane (stronger than latex), are hypo-allergenic, heat conductive, and odorless. They are a soft, loose-fitting sheath specifically designed to protect women from pregnancy and Std's by lining the inside of her vagina. Read the instructions before inserting it because if you don't insert it correctly, it's like not using protection at all. The female condom has to go deep inside the vagina and over the cervix.

Dental Dams

Aptly named because they are used by dentists to isolate a tooth. Dental dams come in various sizes and flavors. Made of ultra think latex, these square shaped barriers allow good sensations for oral sex. Sheer Glyde Dams are FDA approved for protection against Std's for cunnilingus and rimming. The best way to use a dam is for the giver to mark the -mouth- side of the dam with a marker so that they knows which side to lick, then apply a couple of drops of lubricant on the other side, press the dam against her vulva with two hands and enjoy.

Latex Gloves and Finger Cots

Good oral sex involves the hands as well as the mouth. There's nothing more exciting than orally pleasing a woman's clitoris and fingering her vagina or anus simultaneously. By using latex gloves and or finger cots (think of them as mini condoms for your fingers) you can increase erotic sensations and protect the receiver from jagged fingernails, cuts, germs or viral Std's such as herpes, which can be spread by skin-to-skin contact.

Lubricants

We all know, -wetter is better.- But, which lube is best? It can be very confusing because there are so many to choose from including, odorless, tasteless, water soluble lubricants with a lightconsistency and without Nonoxynol-9 spermicide. Here are some favorites: Wet Light, Astroglide, ForePlay Personal Gel, Aqua Lube, Sensua Organics and Probe Silky Light.

What Stds can I get from Oral Sex?

The following list of Std's is the most contagious and common when it comes to performing and receiving oral sex on a person. While no one knows exactly what the degree of risk is, to ensure safeties make sure that no cuts or lesions are present in the mouth or on the genitals. Protect yourself and your partner by using a barrier to avoid the contact of bodily fluids that may result in catching a sexually transmitted disease.

Herpes is a virus that causes sporadic flare-ups of painful blisters, usually around the mouth and or genitals. Herpes can hop from mouth to mouth and from mouth to genitals through the mucous membranes and skin. It can be spread by hand to vagina or hand to anus contact. Since Herpes is such a common virus, you can get a prescription drug called Valtrex.

Genital Warts are similar to Herpes in that they are a virus that remains in your system for life. They are spread in the same way through skin to skin and mucous membrane contact. The warts have to be removed surgically by laser and the bad news is that they may reoccur anyway.

Gonorrhea is a serious bacterial Std that can be spread through unprotected oral-vaginal contact. Symptoms may not show, but vaginal burning, discharge and pelvic pain are common warning signs. The good news is that antibiotics do work, but they must be taken for weeks.

Syphilis is a severe bacterial Std that can also be spread through unprotected oral-vaginal contact, especially if there is a sore present on the mouth or her vagina. Syphilis can be deadly if it isn't cured in the first couple of stages. The first visible sign and stage is the sore at the entrance of the vagina; the second sign is a body rash. Fortunately, Penicillin can cure Syphilis in these early stages. However, the third stage attacks the nervous system and debilitates the heart. Medications have limited success if left untreated.

Crabs and pubic lice are tiny creatures that gravitate towards the pubic hair where they live. They can be spread from one infested person to another. Symptoms include itching, swollen lymph glands and a mild fever.

Hepatitis A is a dangerous virus that can be transmitted by rimming or analingus (licking or penetrating the anal opening with your tongue). Other rimming risks include anal herpes, anal warts, internal parasites and even HIV. Hepatitis A can be prevented by getting a hepatitis A shot. In some cases hepatitis infection can cause muscle ache, fever, loss of appetite, headaches or dizziness.

Hepatitis B can be a life-threatening virus transmitted from sexual contact or contaminated needles. It's found in blood and other body fluids, such as semen, vaginal secretions and the breast of a lactating woman. It's possible to contract Hepatitis B when performing unprotected oral sex, especially when fluids from a carrier enter your body through a cut or sore in your mouth. Symptoms of Hepatitis B are fever, abdominal pain, jaundice and in some cases liver disease. There is no known cure, but it can be prevented with a vaccine.

Hepatitis C is the most deadly of all the hepatitis diseases. It is transmitted exclusively through direct blood contact so the receiver of oral sex must be menstruating, and the person going down on her must have a cut or sore on his mouth. There is no known cure or vaccine for hepatitis C at this time. Symptoms include the same as for A and B, plus dark urine, light stool colors, yellow eyes or skin and tenderness of the liver area.

HIV/AIDS can be fatal when the blood, semen, vaginal secretions or breast milk of an infected person enters another person's bloodstream through a cut, sore or blood vessel. If you perform oral sex on a menstruating partner, you could be at risk. Even if you have recently flossed or brushed your teeth, it's possible that you cut your gums and you could be at risk. HIV doesn't have any immediate warning signs so it's possible to have the virus for years and transmit it to others. The first symptoms of AIDS are weight loss, night sweats, pneumonia and other illnesses related to a low immune system. There is no known cure or vaccine for AIDS, but combinations of medications can slow the virus down.

How to properly put on a male condom

Prepare: Always check your condom for an expiration date, throw it out if it is expired. Also, make sure to store condoms in a cool place, such as a desk drawer, never store a condom in your wallet, hot environments (such as in your car) or if it has been washed or dried by accident. Don't hesitate to get a new condom if you have any doubts.

The penis must be erect in order to put on the condom. Do not attempt to put a condom on if the penis is limp.

Opening: Be careful when opening the package, condoms can rip very easily. Feel free to use your teeth, in a sexy manner, but be careful.

If the man's penis is not circumcised, be sure to pull the foreskin back first.

The condom should be right side out. Make sure to unroll the condom slightly at first in order to check which direction it is unrolling in. Slip it over the head of the penis; moving downward (it should unroll easy). (Hint: try putting the condom on with your mouth, watch your teeth.)

It is important that you hold the top half inch of the condom between your thumb and forefinger when you roll it down. This will leave space for when your man ejaculates.

Roll down the condom as far as it will allow, it should reach the base of the penis.

In the case of anal intercourse (remember: always use a condom during anal intercourse, even if you cannot get pregnant) use a lot of lubricant, the anal region is not naturally lubricated and can tear more easily than the vagina. For intercourse, a water-based lubricant is best. Always apply lubricant after the condom has been put on, a condom could easily slip off of a lubricated penis. Apply lubricant as often as needed, dry condoms break more easily.

For Men: make sure that when you pull out, you continue to hold the condom in place at the base of the penis. If possible, pull out while your penis is still erect. It is imperative that you remove the condom only after you are completely out of your partner's vagina.

Once you have safely removed the condom, throw it away immediately, a condom can be used once, and only once. In the case of anal intercourse, make sure you use an entirely new condom, never switch from vaginal to anal intercourse with the same condom. A man should never ejaculate in the same condom twice, and should also never wear a condom that somebody else has already used.

Also, remember never to use more than one condom at a time. -Doubling Up- only increases the chances of the condom breaking.

Using a female condom

How to properly put on a female condom:

The female condom is a sleeve of polyurethane with a closed end and a larger open end. There is a flexible ring in each end.

Have a condom fashion show

We all need to know about safer sex practices. And, safer sex can be very sexy and fun. For those of you using condoms, experiment with different kinds of condoms and practice putting them on manually and orally.

Condoms:

There are many kinds of condoms including flavored, polyurethane, extra-large, snug fitting, extra-sensitive, and condoms with nubs and stimulators. Here are some examples for you to choose from and experiment with:

Latex: Mentor, Ramses, Durex, Global Protection, Sheik, Pleaser, Kimono, Lifestyles, Crown, Magnum, trojan, Contempo, Paradise

Natural: Fourex, Natural Lamb, Skin Kling

Polyurethane: Avanti, Reality for women (female condom)

New Condoms:

Pleasure Plus Bulbus Head (Gives room inside the condom for the head of the penis to have more friction.)

Custom fit condoms by condomania.com.

You can also experiment with dental dams, latex gloves or finger cots.

Safer Sex Activities

- Cuddling and caressing

- Dry kissing

- Undressing

- Phone sex

- Watching or reading erotica

- Cleavage fornication

- Massage

- Mutual Masturbation

- Manual stimulation

- Oral sex with an FDA approved condom or rubber dam

- Sex toys unshared

- Intercourse with a condom and spermicide

Unsafe Sex

- French kissing in the presence of open sores or cuts

- Manual stimulation in the presence of open sores or cuts

- Oral sex without a barrier

- Sharing unclean sex toys

- Sucking the breasts of a lactating woman

- Vaginal or anal intercourse without an FDA approved condom

- Penetration of anything from the anus to the vagina

- Never blow or force air into the vagina because it can cause an embolism that could be fatal, especially if the woman is pregnant.

Birth Control Methods

NuvaRing-99.7%; $30-$35/ monthly. Protects against pregnancy for one month, no pill to take daily, does not require a -fitting- by a clinician, does not require the use of spermicide, nothing to put in place before intercourse. Possible: more regular, shorter periods, less: menstrual flow and cramping, acne, iron deficiency anemia, excess body hair, headaches, depression and vaginal dryness and painful intercourse associated with menopause, reduces the risk of ovarian and endometrial cancers, pelvic inflammatory disease, noncancerous growths of the breasts, ovarian cysts, and osteoporosis (thinning of the bones), fewer occurrences of ectopic pregnancy (in a fallopian tube), ability to become pregnant returns quickly when use is stopped. Increased vaginal discharge, vaginal irritation or infection, cannot use a diaphragm, cap, or shield for a backup method of birth control, rare but serious health risks, including blood clots, heart attack, and stroke (women who are 35 and older and smoke are at a greater risk), change in sex drive and temporary irregular bleeding, weight gain or loss, breast tenderness, nausea (rarely, vomiting, changes in mood, and other discomforts)

Patch- 99.7%;$30-$40/month supply of patches. Protects against pregnancy for one month, no pill to take daily, nothing to put in place before intercourse, Possible: more regular, shorter periods, less: menstrual flow and cramping, acne, iron deficiency anemia, excess body hair, premenstrual symptoms (such as related headaches and depression) and vaginal dryness and painful intercourse associated with menopause, reduces the risk of ovarian and endometrial cancers, pelvic inflammatory disease, noncancerous growths of the breasts, ovarian cysts, and osteoporosis (loss of bone mass), fewer occurrences of ectopic pregnancy (in not in the uterus), ability to become pregnant returns quickly when use is stopped Skin reaction at the site of application, menstrual cramps, may not be as effective for women who weigh more than 198 pounds, rare but serious health risks, including blood clots, heart attack, and stroke (women who are 35 and older and smoke are at a greater risk), other side effects include change in sex drive and temporary irregular bleeding, weight gain or loss, breast tenderness, nausea (rarely, vomiting, changes in mood, and other discomforts).

POPs (Progestin-only Birth Control Pills)- 92-99.7%; $20-$35/ monthly. Can be used by women who cannot take estrogen, nothing has to be put in place before vaginal intercourse, can be used while breastfeeding, ability to become pregnant returns quickly when use is stopped, irregular bleeding patterns, headache, nausea, dizziness, sore breasts, must be taken at the same time of day each day to reduce the risk of pregnancy and irregular bleeding

IUD- 99.2-99.9%; $175-$500/ exam, insertion, and follow-up visit. Nothing to put in place before intercourse, ParaGard® (copper IUD) may be left in place for up to 12 years, Mirena® (hormone IUD) for five years, no pill to take daily, Mirena® may reduce menstrual cramps, ability to become pregnant returns quickly when IUD is removed Increase in cramps and heavier and longer periods (copper IUDs), spotting between periods, increased chance of tubal infection leading to infertility if inserted when a woman has a STI, rarely, wall of uterus is punctured during insertion, rarely, insertion can cause infection, pregnancies, which rarely occur, are more likely to be ectopic (not in uterus)

Depo-Provera- 97-99.7%. $20-$40/visits to clinician. $30-$75/ injection. Can be used by women who cannot take estrogen, nothing has to be put in place before vaginal intercourse, can be used while breastfeeding, effective for 12 weeks, no pill to take daily, helps prevent cancer of the lining of the uterusirregular bleeding, headache, nausea, dizziness, sore breasts, must receive injection every three months, loss of monthly period, change of appetite, weight gain, depression, hair loss, or increased hair on the face or body, nervousness, skin rash or spotty darkening of the skin, change in sex drive, side effects not reversed until medication wears off (up to 12 weeks), causes temporary bone thinning, may cause delay in getting pregnant after shots are stopped, pregnancies, which rarely occur, are more likely to be ectopic (not in the uterus)

Abstinence-100%; Free. No medical or hormonal side effects of any kind. Many people find it difficult to abstain from sex play for long periods of time

Withdrawal- 73-96% (nearly 100% w/condom); Free (or cost of condoms). Can be used when no other method is available. Not effective against Stds, requires great self-control, experience

Sterilization- 99.5-99.9%; $2,000-$6,000/ Tubal sterilization; $350-$1,000/ vasectomy. Permanent protection against pregnancy, no lasting side effects, no effects on sexual pleasure. Risks of minor surgery, regret, usually not reversible, rarely, tubes reopen, allowing pregnancy to occur

The Pill- 92-99.7% $20-$35/monthly. Nothing to put in place before intercourse, more regular, shorter periods, less: menstrual flow, cramping, acne, iron deficiency anemia, excess body hair, headaches, depression and vaginal dryness, and painful intercourse associated with menopause. Reduces the risk of ovarian and endometrial cancers, pelvic inflammatory disease, noncancerous growths of the breasts, ovarian cysts, and osteoporosis (loss of bone mass), fewer occurrences of ectopic pregnancy (not in the uterus), ability to become pregnant returns quickly when use is stopped, can be used to change the timing and frequency of your period rare but serious health risks, including blood clots, heart attack, and stroke (women who are 35 and older and smoke are at a greater risk), change in sex drive, temporary irregular bleeding, weight gain or loss, breast tenderness, nausea (rarely, vomiting, changes in mood, and other discomforts), must be taken daily, persistent side effects may be relieved by having your clinician change your prescription

Diaphragm- 84-94% $15-$75/ diaphragm

No major health concerns, can be used during breastfeeding. Can be messy, allergies to latex, silicone, or spermicide, should not be used during vaginal bleeding or infection, increased risk of bladder infection, can only be left in place for up to 24 hours

Condom- 85-98% (nearly 100% with withdrawal) $0.50 and up - some family planning centers give them away or charge very little. Easy to buy in drugstores and supermarkets, can be put on or inserted as part of sex play, can help relieve premature ejaculation, helps to protect against Stds and AIDS Latex allergies, loss of sensation, breakage

Female Condom- 79-95% $2.50/per condom Easy to buy in drugstores and supermarkets, can be put on or inserted as part of sex play, erection not necessary to keep condom in place, can be used by people allergic to latex, external ring of condom may stimulate clitoris. May be noisy, may be difficult to insert, may irritate vagina, penis, may slip into vagina during intercourse

Sponge- 68-91% $7.50-$9/package of three sponges. Easy to buy in drugstores and supermarkets, can be put on or inserted as part of sex play, does not interrupt sex play (it can be inserted hours ahead of time) May irritate sex organs, can be messy, may be difficult to remove, cannot be used during vaginal bleeding

Spermicide -71-82% $8/applicator kits of spermicide ($4-$8 refills). Easy to buy in drugstores and supermarkets, can be put on or inserted as part of sex play May irritate sex organs, can be messy

Fertitility Awareness- Based Methods (FAMs)-checking temperature daily, checking cervical mucus daily, recording menstrual cycles on calendar, keeping a very accurate record of when your period comes each month, keeping track of your menstrual cycle using a string of beads called CycleBeads 75-99% $5-$8 and up/temperature kits (drugstore).

$13/CycleBeads- Free classes often available in health and church centers No medical or hormonal side effects. Requires expert training before effective use, uncooperative partners, taking risks during -unsafe- days, poor record keeping, illness and lack of sleep affect body temperature and may interfere with the temperature method, changes caused by vaginal infections and douches may interfere with the cervical mucus method, must have regular menstrual cycles that are never shorter than 26 days and never longer than 32 days to use CycleBeads

Source: http://www.plannedparenthood.com

health information - birth control

If You Choose Fertility Awareness-Based Methods (FAMs)...

... a professional will teach you how to keep track of your menstrual cycle to help you predict -safe- and -unsafe- days. Abstain from intercourse (periodic abstinence) or use condoms, diaphragms, caps, shields, or spermicide during nine or more -unsafe- days

Stds from Unprotected Intercourse

Genital Herpes- Virus; Burning sensation in genitals, low back pain, pain when urinating, flu-like symptoms, small red bumps may appear around genitals, some show no symptoms. Medications prescribed by your doctor, such as ValtrexTM

Gonorrhea-Bacteria Women: strong smelling vaginal discharge, may be thin & watery or thick & yellow/green, irritation or discharge from the anus, abnormal vaginal bleeding, possibly some low abdominal or pelvic tenderness, pain or a burning sensation when passing urine, low abdominal pain sometimes with nausea

Men: white, yellow or green thick discharge from the tip of the penis, inflammation of the testicles & prostate gland, irritation or discharge from the anus, urethral itch & pain or burning sensation when passing urine. Antibiotics (Similar to antibiotics used for Chlamydia)

Chlamydia Bacteria- Women: an unusual vaginal discharge, pain or a burning sensation when passing urine, bleeding between periods, pain during sex or bleeding after sex, low abdominal pain sometimes with nausea

Men: white/cloudy, watery discharge from the tip of the penis, pain or a burning sensation when passing urine, testicular pain and/or swelling. Antibiotics (those similar to gonorrhea). Such as, Doxycycline

Syphilis- Bacteria; Painless sores or open ulcers may appear on the anus, vagina, penis, or inside the mouth, and occasionally on other parts of the body. During the second stage (roughly three weeks to three months after the first symptoms appear), an infected person may experience flu-like symptoms and possibly hair loss or a rash on the soles and palms -- and in some cases all over the body. There are also latent phases of syphilis infection during which symptoms are absent. Antibiotics. However, can be extremely dangerous if left untreated.

HIV/AIDS- Virus; Most symptoms of AIDS are not caused directly by HIV, but by an infection or other condition brought on by a weakened immune system. These include severe weight loss, fever, headache, night sweats, fatigue, severe diarrhea, shortness of breath, and difficulty swallowing. The symptoms tend to last for weeks or months at a time and do not go away without treatment. In some cases, infections result in death. Doctors can prescribe and array of medications (commonly known as a -cocktail-) to preserve life, however, there is no cure.

HPV (Genital Warts)- Virus; Can cause cervical cancer, visible warts in and around the genitals, may look like miniature cauliflower florets, some show no symptoms. Warts can be removed by a physician, however, they will always return







Treat Cold Sores & Prevent the Spread of Herpes Simplex 1


How would you feel if having looked in the mirror and seen that you have cold sores, and at that point you realize that you can't even give your children a kiss on the cheek? Or it's the same when you go on a romantic vacation with your lover, knowing you can't touch them with your lips in any intimate way because those sores aren't completely healed just yet. These feelings are truly heartbreaking. The Herpes virus brings with it a lot of irritation and heart break, but the risk of passing on this annoying problem to others around them, is the biggest concern for most sufferers.

The spread of Herpes is a very serious concern, especially when you are talking about cold sores which many sufferers do not completely understand. If you are unfortunate to find yourself infected with this virus, it is important that you play your part in the prevention of the spread of the virus by learning about the stages of an outbreak, when you are, and when you are not contagious, and of course most importantly, how you can treat cold sores in the long term to prevent future outbreaks

Stages of an Outbreak

This is the first thing you have to completely explore after being diagnosed with Herpes Simplex Virus 1. There are very clear phases of each and every outbreak, starting with the tingling sensation that tells you they are on their way and ending with the scabbed over crusty sores that eventually trail off and disappear.

As you learn about the different stages of an outbreak you will also learn about different cold sore treatment options that could potentially shorten the duration of the outbreak. You will also learn very critical information about how to prevent the spread of the virus by avoiding contact with others during critical phases of the outbreak.

To be entirely safe, it is advised that you keep your mouth away from others during the entire outbreak, starting with those tingling sensations that tell you an outbreak is on the way.

Preventing Cold Sores

Once you have educated yourself on how cold sore outbreaks occur and are up to date on how to prevent any outbreaks you may have right now and in the near future from spreading to those you love, it's time to start learning about potential cold sore treatment options that could prevent future outbreaks.

It's very true that you can never entirely get rid of the virus. It will always be there, under the skin, presenting an ever-present risk of outbreak. Yet, you can control the way you live your life and prevent cold sores from overtaking your life.

How to Treat Cold Sores

Finally, learning how to treat cold sores is absolutely vital to controlling its spread. If you can prevent your own outbreaks from surfacing on your face, then you have much less to worry about when it comes to spreading it to others. If you don't have the blisters, you can kiss your loved ones and have an active sex life without worry!

Ultimately, reducing the spread of Herpes comes down to preventing and controlling active outbreaks for people who already have the virus. If you have the virus it is your absolute duty to learn how to treat cold sores effectively and reduce their appearance. That is our only hope to stop the spread of the virus.




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Thursday, September 29, 2011

A Difficult Sex Question


Did you ever want to ask the question, is that a cold sore or is it herpes? The answer is they are both the same thing. But cold sores do not carry the same stigma as genital herpes. But you must know that they are both the same strains of herpes virus. Actually the virus strain that causes cold sores can also cause serious eye and brain infections.

These virus strains that cause your cold sores on your lips can also infect other areas of your face, your chest and believe it or not your fingers. Approximately fifty per cent to eight per cent of American adults have the oral herpes virus. And about twenty per cent of our adults have the genital herpes virus. Kind of alarming I would say. Sex with strangers needs to be safe sex, condoms please.

The herpes simplex virus 1 most time affects you above your waist, generally caused by your kissing. The herpes simplex virus 2 is most times below your waist and caused by sexual contact. You are probably smart enough to figure out you can get either virus through oral genital contact. You must be careful with casual sex.

You guys are not embarrassed to admit that you get cold sores but few of you, if any, will state you have genital herpes. And I have read that either of them can be in both places.

This genital virus seems to be on a rapid rise among your adolescents as they feel safe having oral sex as opposed to intercourse. Sex education in our society needs to do a lot better job. And of course it all begins at home. Remember guys both types of herpes are treatable, but to date, neither one is curable. Maybe it will be curable in time, but not now.

If you are going to participate in the new so-called sex revolution, no matter whether you are young and old, you need to understand your long term risks. As always you need to live well to be well.




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This is a question that we all must deal with.
And soon.

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Putting a Positive Spin on Cold Sore Outbreaks


Cold sore outbreaks are no laughing matter. Often, it seems as though luck is not on your side and cold sores seem to come up at the most inopportune times. Whether it's an important presentation, a first date or your wedding day, you can bet your bottom Dollar that you will feel that all too familiar tingle in the days leading up to the event.

It's interesting how different people handle their cold sores differently. For some sufferers, it's the end of the world and reason enough to hide from others in shame and humiliation until the sores clear. Yet for others, a an outbreak is no more serious than a bad pimple and has no impact on their lives at all. If you have been feeling as though your herpes simplex diagnosis is the end of the world, read on for some great positive aspects of carrying the virus.

The positive side:

1) You will take better care of yourself: This is potentially one of the most powerful positive spin offs of having cold sores. Once you have had a few flare-ups, you will quickly put two and two together and realize that the amount of cold sores you suffer from is directly related to your general state of health. Try getting enough sleep, reducing your stress levels and watching your diet and you will definitely notice an improvement and reduction in the amount of cold sore flare-ups you experience. Most sufferers also supplement their diets with extra vitamins and take a variety of supplements to ensure good overall health.

2) Herpes is a wake-up call: Whether you contracted the virus from another person whilst engaging in irresponsible sexual behavior or not, having the herpes virus will make you more conscious of the people you get into relationships with and often means better and safer choices are made. This is especially true during outbreaks. Many people report becoming more sexually discriminating after being diagnosed.

3) Cold sores and the herpes virus shine a spotlight onto new relationships: Whether you suffer from HSV-1 or HSV-2, at some point you will have to tell potential partners to keep them safe. If you are single and dating, this news quickly sorts the losers from the keepers. If either of you was unsure about how much effort the relationship was worth, the news of the herpes virus will quickly clarify feelings.

4) A variety of lesser-known positive sides to cold sores: Many sufferers report a colorful variety of positive spin offs that having the virus has had on their lives. While this might not apply to everyone, it's so nice to know that when it comes to oral herpes, the glass can be half-awesome. For example, one sufferer was so upset after her diagnosis she lost her appetite, and those pesky pounds she was unable to shift through dieting and exercise. 

Whether it's a complete lifestyle change or a few simple positive spin offs, it's good to know that some good can come of cold sore outbreaks too. Having the Herpes virus isn't the end of the world; just look how much good can come of it!




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A Woman's Guide to Living With an STD


There are currently more than 65 million Americans living with an STD and chances are you are one of them or know someone who is. Living with an STD can be challenging and remarkably difficult. But with the right perspective and proper treatment, you can lead a normal life.

I Tested Positive - What Now?

Once the initial shock has worn off, it's vital that you educate yourself about the disease. The doctors and nurses at the clinic you were tested can provide you with information on how to manage your disease. In some cases, STDs can be cured with medication, while others will be a lifelong issue that must be managed. Speak to your personal doctor to find out what options you have for treating your disease.

I Feel So Ashamed

Because of social stigmas and self-inflicted shame, individuals with STDs are rapidly losing their quality of life. It is vital that young women who are infected with an STD understand that they are in no way less of a human being because they were diagnosed with a sexually transmitted disease; it's simply a matter of having a medical condition that requires attention, much like most people in society.

I Feel Angry

Anger, resentment, and frustration are all normal emotions to feel when diagnosed with an STD. However, do your best to resist immediate urges to place blame. If you have had more than one sexual partner and not been tested between each one, you may not know who exposed. It is also quite possible that they did not realize they were putting you at risk. Anger and other negative emotions will only make you feel and the situation itself worse.

No One Knows How I Feel

Seek support from those who understand what you are dealing with. Many areas offer weekly support groups where members of the community can connect with others. There are also a myriad of online support groups, forums, and sites for singles, such as herpes dating sites [http://www.sunshinedates.com/].

How will the STD Affect My Relationships?

People you may want to disclose your disease to include sex partners, family, close friends, and individuals you live with. Telling sex partners after you have tested partner is not an easy thing, but in some states, it is against the law not to if you have an STD. Furthermore, those who really want to be with you will appreciate and respect your openness and honesty. Telling family and close friends could provide you with further love and support. Roommates or people we live with can often see us at our most vulnerable, so you may want to consider telling them so you do not have to stress and worry about it.