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Sunday, February 23, 2014

Here’s the reason why you suck with herpes

“You suck. You’re useless. You will not hire a company to like you. Who'd possibly love you with this particular disgusting H factor? Who're you kidding? You need to quit — at this time!Inches

Seem familiar?

Confused-guy2Let’s acquire one factor perfectly obvious: I am not the main one saying each one of these nasty items to you at this time. No, no, no — I couldn’t be that cruel even going to my worst enemy! Based from a lot of people I’ve spoken within our Herpes Chance forums, our Herpes Chance weekend workshop and training clients, I've heard this type of junk coming straight from their own heads! And That I think that on some level that type of smack-speaking is happening inside your mind … right … now.

So what’s the response to the reason why you suck?

“We can’t solve problems using the same type of thinking we used whenever we produced them.”
(Albert Einstein)

You suck since you think that you suck. That’s it.

No-one can convince you of something you don’t already believe on some level. Albert Einstein stated “We can’t solve problems using the same type of thinking we used whenever we produced them.” Just how shall we be likely to solve this H “problem”? (It’s an entire other discussion around the energy of words we use and also the type of impact individuals dress in our experience with existence.) First, step outdoors from it really as being a problem. It simply is. Are you able to change because you have herpes? No. Yes, you can hold on hope of the herpes cure, but may hope holds us away from living. If you can simply accept that certain fact (Express it beside me: “I have herpes. What exactly?”), then you're liberated to transfer to healing your personal relationship to yourself. Denial you have herpes really holds you away from making an in-depth level that you simply don’t suck. Really, it’s quite opposite from drawing. Because it isn't really about herpes. Sturdy whatever values you've rattling around inside your mind which have you believing that simple things like an epidermis condition often means that you're unlovable.

According to Brene Brown’s research (see her inspiring TED talk here), those who had love and belonging and individuals who didn’t only differed on a single factor: The fact that they either deserved it or didn’t. That’s it. What exactly will it decide to try believe that you're worth all individuals things? It isn't a procedure of learning more, but a procedure of unlearning everything programming which has you thinking everything bullshit individuals being anything under awesome.

Let me know, why is a baby worth love? Should you checked out a baby baby (what about imagining you like a baby), the number of reasons would you rattle off this little bundle of pleasure isn’t worth being held, recognized, loved? I'd assume none. Yes, it could be very difficult that i can judge that innocent baby. Maybe your forces in baby knowing are superior to mine, however i assume we’re on a single page here. So my real question is, what’s the main difference between you which baby? What causes it to be deserve only love and acceptance and just what enables you to deserve all of this self-judgment and values of not-enoughness? Herpes? I do not think so.

So let’s wrap this track of an apparent statement: You do not suck. You’re awesome. Go on. Purchased it. Drop the rest of the bullshit. Start thinking that you're worthwhile. Why? Since you are. And also the more energy you place into entertaining the chance you aren’t just fuels the fireplace of not-enoughness (did you ever hear the truly amazing phrase “What you concentrate on becomes bigger”?). Should you entertain the details of the masterdom and all sorts of wonderful proof which goes together with that, your masterdom reaches grow inside you (and in most of the other associations, too).

So begin right now. You deserve it. It’s your decision. You awesome individual, you.

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Sunday, October 20, 2013

Here’s why you suck with herpes

“You suck. You’re worthless. You won’t find someone to love you. Who would possibly accept you with this disgusting H thing? Who are you kidding? You should give up — right now!”

Sound familiar?

Confused-guy2Let’s get one thing perfectly clear: I’m not the one saying all these nasty things to you right now. No, no, no — I couldn’t be that cruel even to my worst enemy! Based off of so many people I’ve talked with in our Herpes Opportunity forums, our Herpes Opportunity weekend workshop and private coaching clients, I have heard this kind of junk coming straight out of their own heads! And I assume that on some level that kind of smack-talking is going on in your head … right … now.

So what’s the answer to why you suck?

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”
(Albert Einstein)

You suck because you believe that you suck. That’s it.

No one can convince you of something that you don’t already believe on some level. Albert Einstein said “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” So how are we going to solve this H “problem”? (It’s a whole other discussion on the power of words we use and the kind of impact those have on our experience of life.) First, step outside of it actually being a problem. It just is. Can you change the fact that you have herpes? No. Yes, you could hold out hope of a herpes cure, but sometimes hope can hold us back from living. So if you can just accept that one fact (Say it with me: “I have herpes. So what?”), then you are free to move into healing your own relationship to yourself. Denial that you have herpes actually holds you back from getting on a deep level that you don’t suck. Actually, it’s quite opposite from sucking. Because it’s not really about herpes. It’s about whatever beliefs you have rattling around in your head that have you thinking that something as simple as a skin condition can mean that you are unlovable.

Based on Brene Brown’s research (see her inspiring TED talk here), the people who had love and belonging and those who didn’t only differed on one thing: The belief that they either deserved it or didn’t. That’s it. So what does it take to believe that you are worthy of all those things? It’s not a process of learning more, but a process of unlearning all that programming that has you believing all that bullshit of you being anything less than awesome.

Tell me, what makes a newborn baby worthy of love? If you looked at a newborn baby (how about imagining you as a newborn baby), how many reasons could you rattle off that this little bundle of joy isn’t worthy of being held, accepted, loved? I would assume none. I know it would be quite difficult for me to judge that innocent baby. Maybe your powers in baby judging are better than mine, but I assume we’re on the same page here. So my question is, what’s the difference between you and that baby? What makes it deserve nothing but love and acceptance and what makes you deserve all this self-judgment and beliefs of not-enoughness? Herpes? I don’t think so.

So let’s wrap this up with an obvious statement: You don’t suck. You’re awesome. Get over it. Own it. Drop all the other bullshit. Start believing that you are worth it. Why? Because you are. And the more energy you put into entertaining the possibility you aren’t just fuels the fire of not-enoughness (have you ever heard the great phrase “What you focus on becomes bigger”?). If you entertain the facts of your awesomeness and all the wonderful proof that goes along with that, then your awesomeness gets to grow within you (and in all of your other relationships, too).

So start now. You deserve it. It’s up to you. You awesome human being, you.

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Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Ambushed by recurring cold sores? Here's why

For such a ubiquitous plague, cold sores can be mighty shaming.

In addition to the indignity of wearing a bulging, weepy blister on your lip, sufferers also must contend with the stigma of its source: HSV-1, a type of herpes simplex virus.

But unlike HSV-2, the virus that usually causes genital herpes, cold sores are not usually sexually transmitted (though they can be). Most people get infected with HSV-1 as kids, from kissy adults.

"It is one of the most common viral infections, and yet you're a pariah," said Dr. Adam Friedman, director of dermatologic research at Albert Einstein College of Medicine at Yeshiva University in New York. "People look at you like you're a leper."

About 70 percent of Americans are infected with HSV-1, but just a third of those infected have cold sore outbreaks, said Bryan Cullen, professor in the department of molecular genetics and microbiology at Duke University Medical Center. Genetics likely separates the lucky from the unlucky, he said.

The hardy virus, which stays in your body your whole life, survives by moving up the sensory nerves after initial infection and vacationing in nerve bundles, where immune cells can't find and destroy it. Triggers such as stress, fatigue, sun exposure, picking at your lip or having a cold or the flu can reactivate some infected cells, which travel back to the initial infection site to cause a new outbreak.

There is no cure. Cullen and fellow researchers hope to find a way to disrupt the processes that keep the virus latent, so that they can coax it out of hiding all at once and ambush it with medication. But they're not close to clinical trials, Cullen said.

HSV-1 has been implicated in a number of diseases, including Alzheimer's, though that link is disputed. Though there are rare cases of severe complications from HSV-1 — such as when the virus spreads to the brain in immunocompromised people, causing death or neurological damage — for the most part "the worst part about (HSV-1) is probably the social stigma," Friedman said.

Prevention and treatment

Though the virus is most contagious during an outbreak, when the virus is "shedding," it's also possible to transmit when no outbreak is visible. According to a study published in 2008 in an oral medicine journal, at least 70 percent of people with HSV-1 shed asymptomatically at least once a month.

Friedman recommends keeping your mouth away from others when you feel a cold sore coming, during the outbreak and for a few days after it goes away. That includes oral sex, as HSV-1 can be transmitted from mouth to genitals (HSV-2 also can be transmitted from genitals to mouth).

Taking prescription antivirals such as acyclovir (Zovirax) or valacyclovir (Valtrex) can reduce healing time or prevent a blister from forming at all, clinical trials have shown. It's best to attack during the "prodrome" stage, when many people feel tingling or itching at the infection site, or have flulike symptoms, before a blister appears.

Friedman suggests applying ice at the first hint of a cold sore, holding it against the infected site for no more than 15 minutes, to reduce swelling. You might also soak a cotton ball in whole milk and hold it against the sore for 10 to 15 minutes daily, Friedman said. Milk contains the protein monocaprin, which can halt HSV-1.

Finally, cover a blister with a thick emollient such as petroleum jelly to speed healing and protect the wound from bacteria, Friedman said.

aelejalderuiz@tribune.com


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