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Saturday, February 22, 2014

Revealing fever blisters (dental herpes HSV-1) to potential partners before kissing?

kissThis can be a question raised a great deal around the Herpes Chance forums.

“Should I / How do you disclose which i get fever blisters to potential partners before kissing them?”

The solution could be a confusing one, due to the fact it’s as much as the person on what’s right or otherwise. And there's been an excellent debate around the forum before about this, and lately another question about this subject continues to be tossed in to the ring …

So let’s enter into this a little much deeper, we could?

“If 80% of individuals have fever blisters, whose responsibility could it be to create up? Individuals who've it or individuals who don’t?”

The main reason this conversation is a little difficult to pin lower happens because if this involves dental herpes (HSV-1) particularly, 80% of People in america 14-49 years of age get it. Now that’s a Huge most of people, is it not? We’re not only speaking a measly barely-tipping-the-scales 51% majority or anything. So thinking about this statistic, that will the responsibility to create in the subject fall? (Inside a perfect world, all of us could be speaking about every facet of our sexual and intimate histories with one another prior to getting intimate, however that ain’t the planet we reside in.)

Here’s a different way to think about this without herpes particularly because the subject … Here’s the scenario: Eight from 10 individuals an area are sick using the influenza. All 10 people know before entering the area that 80% of those for the reason that room are sick using the flu. Which group ought to be covering their mouths? The 8 those who are sick or even the 2 individuals who aren’t? You’ll find individuals to argue either point. What it really comes lower to is that this: Exactly what does your integrity let you know to complete thinking about the conditions? Can you feel guilty should you kissed someone without letting them know you've dental herpes (fever blisters)?

My own opinion is we simply possess the conversation, no matter whether herpes is around the mouth or genital area. It’s still an chance with an important conversation and worry about another person's health. Let's suppose before we even kissed, a nonchalant “Hey, just FYI I recieve fever blisters — much like 80% people — and merely wanted to show you. Would you get fever blisters?” Doesn’t need to be a dealbreaker-feeling conversation. No shame. No guilt. No weirdness. Only a simple conversation about herpes. No biggie. That’s the planet I wish to reside in. Where everybody can talk freely about something simple like herpes therefore it can open the doorway to much deeper conversations and much deeper connection.

What exactly do you consider? Get more information at the publish if you would like to participate in around the discussion.

“Yeah, but how about ‘down there’? Ahem, (dental sex) …”

This can lead to the apparent next question that’s requested … how about herpes and dental sex? The thing is, this is when this discussion will get fascinating (so far as I’m concerned). Why? Because let's say someone has herpes from the HSV-1 variety (discover the variations between HSV-1 and HSV-2) as well as their partner goes lower in it (following a proper herpes talk, obviously), then why is the potential for passing HSV-1 to that particular person’s mouth different than passing it for their mouth for those who have dental herpes and hug them? The finish result is identical: HSV-1 is passed for their mouth (in conclusion, which 80% of People in america age range 14-49 have). [Sidenote: You will find also lots of questions regarding receiving dental sex if you have HSV-2 there's under singlePercent possibility of passing genital HSV-2 for your partner.]

This confusing double standard between no shame in dental herpes, but mucho shame in herpes is proof positive in my experience our culture includes a severe sexual shaming problem. The truth that we obtain something through kissing does not have any stigma, but when we obtain something through indicating inside us an intimate manner, we may want to consider shaming our natural urges? Bull honkey. Yeah, I stated it. Bull honkey. Time for you to understand that sex is really a natural, beautiful factor. No shame goes in sex. So how can we change it? With ourselves first. Accept yourself with herpes. Disclose with self-acceptance and integrity. The stigma will change, I promise you. Begin right now.

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Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Disclosing cold sores (oral herpes HSV-1) to potential partners before kissing?

kissThis is a question brought up a lot on the Herpes Opportunity forums.

“Should I / How do I disclose that I get cold sores to potential partners before kissing them?”

The answer can be a confusing one, simply because it’s up to the individual on what’s right or not. And there has been a great debate on the forum before about it, and recently another question on this topic has been thrown into the ring …

So let’s get into this question a bit deeper, shall we?

“If 80% of people have cold sores, whose responsibility is it to bring it up? Those who have it or those who don’t?”

The reason this conversation is a bit hard to pin down is because when it comes to oral herpes (HSV-1) specifically, 80% of Americans 14-49 years old have it. Now that’s a VAST majority of people, isn’t it? We’re not just talking a measly barely-tipping-the-scales 51% majority or anything. So considering this statistic, with whom does the responsibility to bring up the topic fall? (In a perfect world, we all would be talking about every aspect of our sexual and intimate histories with each other before getting intimate, but that ain’t the world we live in.)

Here’s another way to think of this without herpes specifically as the topic … Here’s the scenario: Eight out of 10 people in a room are sick with the flu virus. All 10 people know before walking into the room that 80% of the people in that room are sick with the flu. Which group should be covering their mouths? The 8 people who are sick or the 2 people who aren’t? You’ll find people to argue either point. What it comes down to is this: What does your integrity tell you to do considering the circumstances? Would you feel guilty if you kissed someone without telling them you have oral herpes (cold sores)?

My personal opinion is we just have the conversation, regardless of whether or not herpes is on the mouth or genitals. It’s still an opportunity to have an important conversation and care about someone else’s health. Imagine if before we even kissed, a nonchalant “Hey, just FYI I get cold sores — just like 80% of us — and just wanted to let you know. Do you get cold sores?” Doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker-feeling conversation. No shame. No guilt. No weirdness. Just a simple conversation about herpes. No biggie. That’s the world I want to live in. Where everyone can talk openly about something simple like herpes so it can open the door to deeper conversations and deeper connection.

So what do YOU think? Click here for the post if you’d like to join in on the discussion.

“Yeah, but what about ‘down there’? Ahem, (oral sex) …”

This leads to the obvious next question that’s asked … what about herpes and oral sex? You see, this is where this discussion gets fascinating (as far as I’m concerned). Why? Because what if someone has genital herpes of the HSV-1 variety (read about the differences between HSV-1 and HSV-2) and their partner goes down on them (after a proper herpes talk, of course), then what makes the potential of passing HSV-1 to that person’s mouth any different than passing it to their mouth if you have oral herpes and kiss them? The end result is the same: HSV-1 is passed to their mouth (to recap, which 80% of Americans ages 14-49 have). [Sidenote: There are also a lot of questions about receiving oral sex when you have HSV-2; there is less than a 1% chance of passing genital HSV-2 to your partner.]

This confusing double standard between no shame in oral herpes, but mucho shame in genital herpes is proof positive to me that our culture has a severe sexual shaming problem. The fact that we get something through kissing doesn’t have any stigma, but if we get something through expressing ourselves in a sexual manner, we might want to consider shaming our natural urges? Bull honkey. Yeah, I said it. Bull honkey. Time to realize that sex is a natural, beautiful thing. No shame belongs in sex. So how do we shift it? With ourselves first. Accept yourself with herpes. Disclose with self-acceptance and integrity. The stigma will shift, I promise you. Start now.

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Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Oral Herpes Spread Through Kissing? polyDNA’s Monthly Survey Shows Segment of Public Believes Kissing with Fever ...

Survey Shows 45% of Respondents Believe Kissing with Oral Herpes Lesions “Ok”

Rochester, NY (PRWEB) March 28, 2013

polyDNA recently received answers to its monthly survey regarding the public's knowledge of the herpes virus.

One of the questions asked was, "If you have cold sores, do you think it is possible to infect others while kissing?" Amazingly, a significant percentage of the public said "No."

“If you have this sore on your lip or whatever, and it’s going away, well then it’s going away, right? Nobody wants to kiss you when you have a nasty, open cold sore where everyone can see it, but when it’s on the way out? Your body killed it, you know. It’s gone. You ain’t going to spread it to nobody.” –Shauna B., Charlotte, N.C.

The truth is exactly the opposite however. polyDNA’s survey found that the respondents did not realize that, “The virus is spread from person to person by kissing, by close contact with herpetic lesions, or even from contact with apparently normal skin that is shedding the virus. Infected saliva is a common means of virus transmission.” [1]

Additionally, the respondents had no clue that, “About 50 percent to 80 percent of US adults have oral herpes. According to the National Institutes of Health (NIH), by age 50, approximately 90 percent of adults have been exposed to the virus…The herpes lesions typically last a week to 10 days and most often occur around the lips, oral mucosa, and/or tongue.” [2]

Mike Evans, from the polyDNA said, "It's amazing. The very idea that so many people have no real clue as to how oral herpes is transmitted is incredible. The fact is though, the majority just doesn’t know."

polyDNA believes that because of the ignorance revealed in its survey, the public should be aware of the relationship between kissing and the spread of oral herpes (HSV-1). In addition, the biotechnology firm recommends boosting the immune system against a latent herpes infection through the use of a scientific, all natural remedy. That remedy is Gene-Eden-VIR.

A recent post marketing clinical study showed that Gene-Eden-VIR is effective against the latent herpes virus. By helping the body's immune system target the latent herpes virus, people also lower their risk of developing fever blisters, cold sores, or genital herpes symptoms. [3]

Gene-Eden-VIR is highly effective against the latent herpes virus, each ingredient was chosen through a scientific approach. Scientists scanned thousands of scientific and medical papers published in various medical and scientific journals around the world to identify the safest, most effective natural ingredients that target the latent forms of both HSV-1 and HSV-2. [4]

To learn more about Gene-Eden-VIR, visit http://www.gene-eden-kill-virus.com.

References:

[1] [2[3 [4 http://www.gene-eden-kill-virus.com/studies.php


polyDNA is a biotechnology company that develops dietary supplements using the unique scientific method developed by Dr. Hanan Polansky, which is based on Computer Intuition.

In addition to his unique scientific method, Dr. Polansky published the highly acclaimed scientific discovery, called Microcompetition with Foreign DNA. The discovery explains how foreign DNA fragments, and specifically, DNA of latent viruses, cause most major diseases.

polyDNA developed Gene-Eden-VIR , an antiviral natural remedy that helps the immune system kill latent viruses.

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Sunday, June 12, 2011

Kissing Caution

Dear Jackie:

I am auditioning for a part that requires me to kiss someone I'venever met. How can I be certain this person is not sick and doesn'thave any easily transmittable diseases, such as herpes?

I am a nurse in a setting where there is a high risk for hepatitisand HIV, and we take grand measures and follow strict rules forpersonal protection when taking care of patients. We wear gloves,gowns, and face shields, and hand washing is no joke. I supposebeing trained that way makes you more aware of this sort of thing.So when I saw I was going to have to kiss someone at this audition,the thoughts "I don't know this person" and "Is it safe?" came overme.

I'm thinking that to be on the safe side, I could excuse myself tothe bathroom afterward, use mouthwash after the kiss, and swab mylips with an alcohol swab. I guess this is one of the risks actorshave to take. Please help.

—Careful Kisser

Dear Careful:

First off, I doubt you'll be required to kiss at the audition. Mostlikely you'll be reading with a reader or a casting associate, andthey certainly don't plan on kissing every actor who comes throughthe door! Even if you read with another actor, it's probably notexpected that you smack at your audition—no matter how steamy thekiss in the script. Often a sensitive peck on the cheek or someintimate eye contact is enough to convey the idea. If you get tocallbacks, you can go with what worked in the initial audition—or,if there's any doubt, ask the casting director what he or she wouldlike for that moment, given the setting.

If the CD says, "I want you two to share an intimate, sloppy kissright now, because I can't imagine that part and need you to proveto me that you know how to get down" (or something along thoselines), you'll need to explain that you are a nurse with extensivetraining in communicable disease prevention and can't afford torisk your health by kissing a complete stranger in an audition.Ideally, this conversation will take place quietly and not with youpointing accusingly at your scene partner. But if he or she ispresent, simply add that it's nothing personal—just yourprofessional rule of thumb.

At this point, hopefully, the casting person will drop it. Yes,there may be some eye-rolling from the CD, but that doesn't meanyou didn't do the right thing.

I spoke to Dr. Margarita Sanchez-Padilla, a family practicephysician, about the situation, and she was very clear in heradvice: "Don't take the risk."

Herpes is just one of the things we can pass to each other througha kiss. Strep throat, the Epstein-Barr virus (which causes mono),the common cold—there are so many microbes to choose from."Obviously, if you know you're sick, you shouldn't have closecontact with others," says Sanchez-Padilla. "But if you don't knowwhether someone else is sick, don't have intimate contact withthem."

As for private, post-audition de-germing, Sanchez-Padilla isskeptical. "Mouthwash probably wouldn't help; that's more fordental health," she says. "And there's not really an 'anti-viralwash.' "

I tried to explain the pressure inherent in an audition situationand how actors might feel like they need to comply with casting'sdemands. "That's awkward," Sanchez-Padilla replied. "That's scary.…That's worrisome."

I turned to Dr. Matt Katics, who has an undergraduate degree inacting and spent several years living the actor's life in LosAngeles before becoming a doctor. He understands well the pressurefor actors to say yes to anything that casting directors requestand is somewhat reassuring about the risks.

"Regarding medical concerns for auditions, one is probably okay ifyour partner is generally healthy, there are no visible lesions,and not more than saliva is being exchanged," begins Katics, aboard-certified family medicine and hospice and palliative medicinephysician. "For herpes and other oral viruses, if there has been norecent illness and no lesions are present, risk of transmission isextremely low. For serious chronic illnesses such as HIV orhepatitis, kissing—no biting—is generally considered safe if nooral lesions are present."

There are situations, however, where Katics feels thatmore-extensive precautions should be taken: "If an actor was askedto audition with multiple people in a kissing scene, it would bereasonable to ask that the production team screen actors with aquestionnaire about communicable diseases such as oral herpes,although for legal and medical privacy issues, such informationcould probably not be required. If you were working on an extendedproject, such as a play or film, and your partner did have ahistory of oral herpes, then he or she would need to watch foroutbreaks and consider going on suppressive anti-viraltherapy."

As actors, we will have to kiss and become otherwise physicallyintimate with people we don't know very well, but usually onlyafter we are cast and have the opportunity to talk with ourkiss-mate about suspicious cold sores or possible viruses. Mostactors—most people—are ethical and concerned for the well-being ofothers, and as such, an audition infection is unlikely.

Unfortunately, just as in dating, intimacy brings risk. Whetheryou're matched with a scene partner who didn't inform you of his orher illness or who simply didn't realize that he or she was sick,the risk is there. But actors aren't the only professionalsaccepting such risks in the course of their jobs. Athletes oftenend up swapping sweat and sometimes saliva or blood during a boxingor wrestling match, or even a very physical basketball or hockeygame. And, as you well know, health-care professionals need toprotect against infection daily. Sanchez-Padilla is clear that, nomatter the situation, people "really do need to protectthemselves."

"I had the most horrible situation when I was a resident," shesays. "I was going to a detox program for alcoholics and drugaddicts, and I would sit in with their therapies, to learn abouttheir treatment. One day there was this new, very loud man there.The next day he was gone. It turned out that he was a cocaineaddict and he left the detox to get high. When he returned to thehospital, he had relapsed and was on oxygen and in really badshape. On a break during the next therapy session—many of thepatients went outside and smoked during the break—all of a suddenthey all came running back in. This man's heart had failed. I ranout there and…this guy was a crackhead…and I thought, 'I'm supposedto give him mouth-to-mouth.' I saw my kids flashing before my eyesand my husband flashing before my eyes. And I said to myself, 'Ican't do this.' I learned right then and there not to put yourselfor your family at risk. Later I learned that I had done the right[medically ethical] thing."

Kissing CautionBy Jackie ApodacaJune 2, 2011


Dear Jackie:

I am auditioning for a part that requires me to kiss someone I've never met. How can I be certain this person is not sick and doesn't have any easily transmittable diseases, such as herpes?

I am a nurse in a setting where there is a high risk for hepatitis and HIV, and we take grand measures and follow strict rules for personal protection when taking care of patients. We wear gloves, gowns, and face shields, and hand washing is no joke. I suppose being trained that way makes you more aware of this sort of thing. So when I saw I was going to have to kiss someone at this audition, the thoughts "I don't know this person" and "Is it safe?" came over me.

I'm thinking that to be on the safe side, I could excuse myself to the bathroom afterward, use mouthwash after the kiss, and swab my lips with an alcohol swab. I guess this is one of the risks actors have to take. Please help.

—Careful Kisser

Dear Careful:

First off, I doubt you'll be required to kiss at the audition. Most likely you'll be reading with a reader or a casting associate, and they certainly don't plan on kissing every actor who comes through the door! Even if you read with another actor, it's probably not expected that you smack at your audition—no matter how steamy the kiss in the script. Often a sensitive peck on the cheek or some intimate eye contact is enough to convey the idea. If you get to callbacks, you can go with what worked in the initial audition—or, if there's any doubt, ask the casting director what he or she would like for that moment, given the setting.

If the CD says, "I want you two to share an intimate, sloppy kiss right now, because I can't imagine that part and need you to prove to me that you know how to get down" (or something along those lines), you'll need to explain that you are a nurse with extensive training in communicable disease prevention and can't afford to risk your health by kissing a complete stranger in an audition. Ideally, this conversation will take place quietly and not with you pointing accusingly at your scene partner. But if he or she is present, simply add that it's nothing personal—just your professional rule of thumb.

At this point, hopefully, the casting person will drop it. Yes, there may be some eye-rolling from the CD, but that doesn't mean you didn't do the right thing.

I spoke to Dr. Margarita Sanchez-Padilla, a family practice physician, about the situation, and she was very clear in her advice: "Don't take the risk."

Herpes is just one of the things we can pass to each other through a kiss. Strep throat, the Epstein-Barr virus (which causes mono), the common cold—there are so many microbes to choose from. "Obviously, if you know you're sick, you shouldn't have close contact with others," says Sanchez-Padilla. "But if you don't know whether someone else is sick, don't have intimate contact with them."

As for private, post-audition de-germing, Sanchez-Padilla is skeptical. "Mouthwash probably wouldn't help; that's more for dental health," she says. "And there's not really an 'anti-viral wash.' "

I tried to explain the pressure inherent in an audition situation and how actors might feel like they need to comply with casting's demands. "That's awkward," Sanchez-Padilla replied. "That's scary.… That's worrisome."

I turned to Dr. Matt Katics, who has an undergraduate degree in acting and spent several years living the actor's life in Los Angeles before becoming a doctor. He understands well the pressure for actors to say yes to anything that casting directors request and is somewhat reassuring about the risks.

"Regarding medical concerns for auditions, one is probably okay if your partner is generally healthy, there are no visible lesions, and not more than saliva is being exchanged," begins Katics, a board-certified family medicine and hospice and palliative medicine physician. "For herpes and other oral viruses, if there has been no recent illness and no lesions are present, risk of transmission is extremely low. For serious chronic illnesses such as HIV or hepatitis, kissing—no biting—is generally considered safe if no oral lesions are present."

There are situations, however, where Katics feels that more-extensive precautions should be taken: "If an actor was asked to audition with multiple people in a kissing scene, it would be reasonable to ask that the production team screen actors with a questionnaire about communicable diseases such as oral herpes, although for legal and medical privacy issues, such information could probably not be required. If you were working on an extended project, such as a play or film, and your partner did have a history of oral herpes, then he or she would need to watch for outbreaks and consider going on suppressive anti-viral therapy."

As actors, we will have to kiss and become otherwise physically intimate with people we don't know very well, but usually only after we are cast and have the opportunity to talk with our kiss-mate about suspicious cold sores or possible viruses. Most actors—most people—are ethical and concerned for the well-being of others, and as such, an audition infection is unlikely.

Unfortunately, just as in dating, intimacy brings risk. Whether you're matched with a scene partner who didn't inform you of his or her illness or who simply didn't realize that he or she was sick, the risk is there. But actors aren't the only professionals accepting such risks in the course of their jobs. Athletes often end up swapping sweat and sometimes saliva or blood during a boxing or wrestling match, or even a very physical basketball or hockey game. And, as you well know, health-care professionals need to protect against infection daily. Sanchez-Padilla is clear that, no matter the situation, people "really do need to protect themselves."

"I had the most horrible situation when I was a resident," she says. "I was going to a detox program for alcoholics and drug addicts, and I would sit in with their therapies, to learn about their treatment. One day there was this new, very loud man there. The next day he was gone. It turned out that he was a cocaine addict and he left the detox to get high. When he returned to the hospital, he had relapsed and was on oxygen and in really bad shape. On a break during the next therapy session—many of the patients went outside and smoked during the break—all of a sudden they all came running back in. This man's heart had failed. I ran out there and…this guy was a crackhead…and I thought, 'I'm supposed to give him mouth-to-mouth.' I saw my kids flashing before my eyes and my husband flashing before my eyes. And I said to myself, 'I can't do this.' I learned right then and there not to put yourself or your family at risk. Later I learned that I had done the right [medically ethical] thing."



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