Dating With Herpes - How to Overcome Rejection

The likelihood of rejection is very much real when you have genital herpes and are interested in dating someone that does not have herpes. The social taboos associated with the virus are too many to count. Herpes is demonized and the large majority of the population, even those with the virus - are mostly misinformed about what it is and how it is contracted. And the truth is - no matter how comfortable you are with your condition, there will be others who are completely unaccepting. That said, dating rejection is difficult enough - but there's something especially painful about being rejected because of herpes.

Chances are, prior to being diagnosed with herpes - when you were turned down for a date - you just shrugged it off and reminded yourself that "there are plenty of fish in the sea". Now that you are living with herpes, the reality has set in - there may not be as many "fish in the sea" as you once believed. So how do you deal with the rejection when you are single and dating with herpes?

1. Get over it: Yup! That's what I said - you really have to just get over it. I understand that is certainly easier said than done, but you can not allow yourself to get depressed over someone telling you "no". There will be people who tell you no, but do not get caught up in those people - your only concern should be with finding the one person who says "yes".

2. They just weren't meant for you: I fully believe that there is someone for everyone. Whether you have genital herpes or one arm - there is someone who will love you fully and completely just as you are. The more time you spend focused on the one who rejected you, the less time you will have available for the who will accept you

3. Look for others like you: You may feel that only dating other people with herpes is very limiting, but that is part of the reality of this situation. Now I'm not suggesting that you lower your standards, or that you isolate yourself - however the facts are what they are. There will be people who will not be willing to give you a chance simply because you have genital herpes. Now that said, it is important that you remember one thing - you are not alone my friend! There are millions of singles just like you - suffering silently and looking for love. From local community support groups, online support groups and even online dating sites just for people with herpes.

You may have this disease, but it does not define who you are. Focus on those who love you and accept you, and you'll find peace with your circumstance and happiness in your love life.

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How to Date With Herpes - Reducing the Chances of Rejection

If you have been recently diagnosed with herpes, you may feel as if the dating game is lost to you. You may feel that no one will ever want to touch you, let alone marry you. You may feel that attempting to date with herpes on your mind is like trying to vacation on the beach while having a root canal; it seriously undermines what is meant to be a pleasurable activity.

I hope, after reading this article, you will realize that your situation is not nearly so bleak, nor uncommon. There is a way to date with herpes that will warm people to you. If you really have a problem with the idea of letting people know about your condition, there is also the miracle of modern technology at your service.

About a year ago, I was dating a woman who told me that she had just been diagnosed with genital herpes, and had proof that it had been passed from her previous partner. We had been together for about 2 months by then, and had been intimate in many ways. Although at that point I had never had symptoms and therefore had not been tested, I continued to see her after her disclosure.

Why?

First of all, I greatly appreciated her honesty with me. And while she knew it was an unfortunate situation, she did not feel or act as if she was the disease. Instead, she was matter of fact, and said confidently that she understood if I wanted to end the relationship.

Also, she came prepared with relevant info that she laid out before me. In doing so, she showed me that she was willing to take every single precaution necessary to avoid passing it on to me. Here are some of the things we talked about that day, and which I researched even more later:

o There is now effective 'suppression therapy' on the market that you can take in pill form to reduce shedding of the virus. The most well-known of these goes by the name Valtrex, and is the most popular because it is efficiently absorbed by the body and doesn't need to be taken as often as other brands.

o Condom use can be quite effective as long as condoms are not old, damaged by sun or heat, or torn with fingernails or teeth. The best are fresh off the shelf latex condoms; Kimono, Trojan and Durex brands are among the most durable.

o All forms of sexual contact need to be avoided during outbreaks. We decided that we would take the outbreaks as an opportunity to explore other areas of intimacy that did not involve the exchange of bodily fluids, and enjoyed them immensely.

o Ultimately, nothing is 100% guaranteed to stop transmission.

Now, not everyone is going to be convinced by this story to be so open and confident about their herpes diagnosis, and that's fine. One of the great things about modern technology is that you don't have to just sleep around and not disclose your disease (while harboring guilt) - you also have the option of online dating specifically for people who have contracted herpes and other std's.

The great thing about a dating site that caters to people with herpes is that you disclose your condition when you create your profile, so rather than harboring shame and anxiety, you are able to just relate to potential mates in a relaxed manner. If you wish to be discreet, you don't need to give your name or post a profile photo - you can only choose to share this information through private messages with other members who you have built a trust with.

Honestly, many herpes dating sites are pretty bad, and by bad I mean virtually abandoned. Nobody wants to sign up to a dating site to find 5 matches in their city - and none of them in the site since 2006. The one exception to this that I've seen is Positive Singles Online. They have been online for years, and their popularity has grown by leaps and bounds in the last couple of years. Their member database is huge and they have a lot of success stories. To check them out, you can sign up with a free profile here.

Regardless of what you do, please don't get too down on yourself. You're worth much more than that.

How to Date With Herpes - Reducing the Chances of Rejection

If you have been recently diagnosed with herpes, you may feel as if the dating game is lost to you. You may feel that no one will ever want to touch you, let alone marry you. You may feel that attempting to date with herpes on your mind is like trying to vacation on the beach while having a root canal; it seriously undermines what is meant to be a pleasurable activity.

I hope, after reading this article, you will realize that your situation is not nearly so bleak, nor uncommon. There is a way to date with herpes that will warm people to you. If you really have a problem with the idea of letting people know about your condition, there is also the miracle of modern technology at your service.

About a year ago, I was dating a woman who told me that she had just been diagnosed with genital herpes, and had proof that it had been passed from her previous partner. We had been together for about 2 months by then, and had been intimate in many ways. Although at that point I had never had symptoms and therefore had not been tested, I continued to see her after her disclosure.

Why?

First of all, I greatly appreciated her honesty with me. And while she knew it was an unfortunate situation, she did not feel or act as if she was the disease. Instead, she was matter of fact, and said confidently that she understood if I wanted to end the relationship.

Also, she came prepared with relevant info that she laid out before me. In doing so, she showed me that she was willing to take every single precaution necessary to avoid passing it on to me. Here are some of the things we talked about that day, and which I researched even more later:

o There is now effective 'suppression therapy' on the market that you can take in pill form to reduce shedding of the virus. The most well-known of these goes by the name Valtrex, and is the most popular because it is efficiently absorbed by the body and doesn't need to be taken as often as other brands.

o Condom use can be quite effective as long as condoms are not old, damaged by sun or heat, or torn with fingernails or teeth. The best are fresh off the shelf latex condoms; Kimono, Trojan and Durex brands are among the most durable.

o All forms of sexual contact need to be avoided during outbreaks. We decided that we would take the outbreaks as an opportunity to explore other areas of intimacy that did not involve the exchange of bodily fluids, and enjoyed them immensely.

o Ultimately, nothing is 100% guaranteed to stop transmission.

Now, not everyone is going to be convinced by this story to be so open and confident about their herpes diagnosis, and that's fine. One of the great things about modern technology is that you don't have to just sleep around and not disclose your disease (while harboring guilt) - you also have the option of online dating specifically for people who have contracted herpes and other std's.

The great thing about a dating site that caters to people with herpes is that you disclose your condition when you create your profile, so rather than harboring shame and anxiety, you are able to just relate to potential mates in a relaxed manner. If you wish to be discreet, you don't need to give your name or post a profile photo - you can only choose to share this information through private messages with other members who you have built a trust with.

Honestly, many herpes dating sites are pretty bad, and by bad I mean virtually abandoned. Nobody wants to sign up to a dating site to find 5 matches in their city - and none of them in the site since 2006. The one exception to this that I've seen is Positive Singles Online. They have been online for years, and their popularity has grown by leaps and bounds in the last couple of years. Their member database is huge and they have a lot of success stories. To check them out, you can sign up with a free profile here.

Regardless of what you do, please don't get too down on yourself. You're worth much more than that.