It is natural to feel very emotional when you discover you have herpes. It is common to first feel angry, and then to feel sad or depressed. With the initial anger, you may want to get revenge on the person who gave you herpes. You may want to hurt them physically or emotionally, or take them to court and try to get money from them. This article explains how your emotions will change, and how you will gradually become happy.
After a while your anger will subside. And then sadness or even severe depression will emerge. It will diminish or go away sometimes, and then you will feel some pain or discomfort and the onset of another outbreak and it will be back again. This can go on for a long time, even years for some people. And when we are feeling this way, it is common to isolate and avoid friends and family.
Ironically, isolating and feeling sorry for ourselves can actually cause more outbreaks. It has been found that those who force themselves to go out and socialize start to have fewer outbreaks. By socializing, we start to connect with the world again, and we begin to realize that having herpes is not the end of the world. When we realize that one in five adults has herpes, we don't feel so alone. When I say socializing, I do not mean going to bars and drinking. Drinking, and staying up late, and neglecting proper nutrition and rest will cause more outbreaks. We have to start really taking care of ourselves, emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually.
If we start a self care program encompassing the four mentioned aspects of our well-being everything will start to go better, and our outbreaks will diminish or even stop completely. Our emotional roller coaster will end and we will start to see herpes for what it really is. It is a viral infection that millions of people have. It is not something that defines us. To help you realize this, and to help you actually feel it, you may want to join a local support group. Such groups are anonymous, and people meet to share their feelings and experiences regarding herpes. You do not have to go forever. Going for a few weeks or a few months may be enough. You can find such local herpes support groups by searching for them on the internet. Some of them have social events as well, where you might even meet someone special.
I have had herpes for over 16 years, and now I help others with herpes. I learned how to prevent herpes outbreaks, and I share how I do it with others on my website: http://www.herpes-herbs.com/
