The key to being happy with herpes? Give up hope.

Are you suffering with herpes? (Key word here being “suffering.”) Well, here’s the secret to moving on, to being happy: Just give up.

Hold on, stop the temper tantrum. Get up off the floor. Let’s be clear: Don’t give up on everything. Keep that good, positive hope. Give up that irrational hope you’re clinging to. That just-out-of-your-reach hope that’s keeping you from moving on with your life. Give up that nagging hope of finding a herpes cure (although it may happen). Give up hope that you’ll never have an outbreak again (although they do lessen with time). Give up hope that one day saying “I have herpes” to a potential partner will be easy-breezy (although disclosing can actually be a connecting experience). Give up hope that at some point, that herpes outbreak won’t impact you in any way (although with time, it impacts you less and less).

Life naturally changes, shifts, evolves. We lose things, we gain things, and through it all we learn to live under constantly evolving circumstances. We learn about ourselves. So evolve! Live your life as it is right now.

Sound dismal? It’s only dismal if you expect that what you’re hoping for is possible. If it’s not possible, then you’re painting yourself into a pretty hopeless corner. It’s like holding out hope to win the lottery, waiting for that day that your true happiness will come. Your life is officially on hold until the lottery is won. You find yourself waiting forever (99.987% odds) — not to mention your numb fingertips from that mountain of scratch-off tickets.

Herpes and colostomy bags
Yes, herpes can be shitty at times (please excuse the necessary language), but this study takes shitty quite literally. A recent study published in the November 2009 issue of Health Psychology journal dealt with adults who had their colons removed. It shows us the “dark side of hope.” Out of the 71 no-colon patients, 41 were told they could have surgery to reconnect their bowels, while the rest were told nothing more could be done — they would have to learn to live with a colostomy bag.

Dr. Peter Ubel is one of the authors of the study. He says, “We’re not saying hope is a bad thing. What we’re pointing out is that there can be a dark side of hope. It can cause people to put their lives on hold. Instead of moving on and trying to make the best of circumstances, you can think, ‘my circumstances are going to change eventually — no point in dealing with these circumstances.’”

What are you waiting for?
So stop waiting! Giving up irrational hope is actually freeing: It frees you up to live your life with your current circumstances. Life naturally changes, shifts, evolves. We lose things, we gain things, and through it all we learn to live under constantly evolving circumstances. We learn about ourselves. So evolve! Live your life as it is right now.

“Worst” case scenario, a cure is never found, but you have learned to live with the fact that this simple little virus is just something to deal with, not worth pausing your entire life for.

“Best” case scenario, a cure is found and you can promptly throw this article in the trash and find somewhere else to focus your hope.

But either way, at least you didn’t wait.

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Safe Sex For Your Well Being

Thought of the day: No glove/no love!

After watching a program the other night about STD's, I was blown away at the fact that AIDS and herpes is on the rise in the 55-75 year old demographic. With all the information overload today, one would think that people are more aware, yet sex is still a taboo topic for many. Isn't it amazing that 2 adults will lie naked, share intimacy physically, or even share a toothbrush but not talk freely about sex!

Simply stated, if you're about to have sexual relations with anyone new the "sex talk" is a must! Don't fall for the fact that they've only had 2 relationships, have a good job, they're attractive and charming, as it takes one unprotected encounter to change your life!

The program had a woman in her late 60's giving a seminar in Florida to the residences on how to use condoms, the how to's on safe sex and not to simply trust someone because they look "clean/professional and honest".

Years ago, it seemed that we all became aware that there's no face to AIDS, as it can strike anyone, even if you've only had unprotected sex once! Somehow that knowledge has faded for many. Same thing for herpes. Although not deadly, it is contagious, stays with you for life and once again whether there's an outbreak or not, protection is necessary.

What many people don't know is that a cold sore on your mouth is contagious. If not careful this can be transmitted easily and become Herpes Simplex 2. So if you have a cold sore or see one on the other person, before desire and lust takes over and a kiss commences, know that any other type of oral pleasure cannot take place!

So, today it seems there has to be a whole new education performed on a generation who's living longer, knows the benefits of Viagra/Cialis and are single again after divorce or death of a spouse.

It struck me as very sad and very scary that this is occurring as in that age group when they were single the only fear they had was getting someone pregnant. Now with Viagra a man of 67 thinks he's Casanova again, women have gone through menopause and presume they're safe....and the simple fact is not being informed can make the "golden years" oh not so golden.

Whatever your age, be safe, think of your health and safety first. Have the "sex talk" be responsible, don't let desire, loneliness, escape or that extra Vodka Cranberry cloud your judgment.....If 2 adults are getting together sexually it's the most important 10 minute conversation of your life. Remember it's not the amount of lovers you've had, it's if you've had safe sex. "No glove, no love" it's a must that can save your life!

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