You just found out from your health care provider that you have Herpes. After the initial emotional distress you've endured, you begin to think that your sex life is now over. Having Herpes doesn't mean that your sex life is over. However, your sex life as you've known it will definitely change. You will need to be more careful and considerate of others whom you become intimate with in the future. It's your responsibility to educate yourself about Herpes and learn how to adjust your sexual experiences to be more safe and satisfying.
The first step to making changes in your sexual life is to be honest about your condition with a potential partner. This may be difficult to do but is of paramount importance to protecting your health and that of your partner. It will also show your integrity and facilitate trust. You can expect that disclosing your status to a potential love interest may result in rejection. Don't let this deter you from seeking a partner. There are many others who are understanding, supportive and are willing to take the risk.
If you're uncomfortable with disclosing to people who don't have Herpes, or you have a fear of rejection there is an alternative. Herpes dating sites are a way to meet others sharing the same condition. It takes the burden of disclosure out of the equation. This allows you to communicate with potential partners in a more relaxed atmosphere. There are quite a few Herpes dating sites out there and those also cater to individuals with other STDs like HIV.
You may have Herpes but your whole life doesn't have to change, just your sex life. Although you don't need to live a life of celibacy, you'll need to make changes. These changes are necessary to stay healthy, protect yourself and keep a potential partner from becoming infected. You are not alone, there are millions living with Herpes. You can find others through dating sites that cater to individuals with the same condition. This takes the stress of disclosing out of the picture. You can move on with your life after Herpes.
P.Coates is a Nurse Practitioner with an interest in health, fitness and relationship issues. For more information on Herpes and dating visit http://www.UniquePositiveSingles.com.
