One of the first questions that comes to mind when you first learn that you have a sexually transmitted disease is usually "How did this happen?" Now the herpes simplex virus is a particularly strange disease because it can lay dormant for years at a time.
When a couple are in a relationship and either one or both learn that they have genital herpes - there is usually a lot of finger pointing, blaming, and accusations of cheating. Now unless you absolutely know that your ex was unfaithful and contracted herpes in the process - there is unfortunately know way of being one hundred percent certain as to who you may have got it from. Short of a confession that is.
Here are a few things to keep in mind about genital herpes:
1. Contrary to popular opinion, the herpes virus does not always take the form of huge nasty open sores oozing with puss and blood. In fact, most with the virus state that their repeat occurrences can often go unnoticed, and if they didn't already know what it was - they wouldn't have guessed it to be herpes simplex.
2. Herpes is contracted through skin to skin contact. What this means is that, unlike most other sexually transmitted diseases - you can actually get it even when using condoms perfectly every single time without fail.
3. Herpes can indeed lay dormant for many years. We should preface that by saying this - by and large, the initial herpes outbreak is the absolute worst. It can show up anywhere, it is painful and usually lasts for two to three weeks. Most people know, without a doubt - that something is wrong. Now here's the tricky part, that "something" could be anything. If a person doesn't suspect that they have a sexually transmitted disease - they could easily mistake their initial outbreak for a rash, allergic reaction, or even sunburn if they've recently had that area exposed!
Now with those three things in mind, the truth is this - it could be possible that your ex didn't know that he or she had herpes. On the flip side, it could also be possible that it was you who gave it to them!
Trying to figure out who gave you herpes is mostly a waste of your time and energy, not only that - but it leads to a lot of unnecessary stress that will surely lead to more uncomfortable outbreaks!
After you've processed your diagnosis, and decide that you're ready to re-enter the dating scene, know that there are a ton of people out there in the same boat as you! Positive Singles is one of the top dating sites for people with genital and oral herpes.
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